Dear Stay At Home Mom...

Dear Current Self,

This is a reminder that right now things may be hard. You may feel like life is very difficult at the moment, but remember that you are doing amazing... And one day in the future when you look back at these days, you'll laugh, remanence, and miss them terribly. 

You're a stay at home mom, yes! You've been doing this for way too long. But your babies need you. They love you and they appreciate you. But I know it feels hard. I know everyday feels like it's on repeat. I know you're feeling anxious because you feel alone, stuck even, looking for the best in every situation. 

I know that your husband works his butt off to provide for his family. I know that he loves you and the kids dearly, and he knows how hard it is on you. I know that you may even feel jealousy and sadness because he has a bit more opportunity than you do. He's surrounded by people. He has two jobs, a hobby that he loves, side projects and his mind is always occupied. But gosh darn it, you have so much passion yourself. 

I know how hard it is to find time for yourself. You have to either wake up extremely early in the morning, or stay up late at night just to get a little you time because the rest of the day is devoted to your family, taking care of the house, and being present with your littles. But I also know that your exhausted, because all of those things are extremely exhausting. You give so much to others, and nearly not enough to yourself. Most nights it's a battle getting your youngest to fall asleep and STAY asleep without needing your comfort. 

I know that you're a non stop supermom that gets things done, but everyone expects more. You don't cry as much as you should because you play it off like nothing bothers you. But you live in a cycle of repeat days, where the world revolves around everyone else but yourself. The only people you really have to talk to is your two year old and your 6 year old, but you don't want to put these kinds of problems on them. And your husband is so damn busy, you keep these thoughts bundled up inside of you until you finally explode into tears... Alone, because you feel silly saying how you feel out loud. 

I know that you love your kids more than anything in this world. Since being a parent, they have become your world, your universe. And you feel like the luckiest person in the world. 

But remember this... You ARE the luckiest person in the world. These babies of yours are going to grow up so fast. They already have... Where has the time gone? And your husband works his butt off because he wants only the best for you and those babies of yours. He hates being away from you, and I'm sure he's not a huge fan of cutting grass in the blistering heat for hours and days on end, or talking to providers that yell at him over the phone... No, he's doing it because he loves you guys. 

Remember that this phase of life you're going through will soon pass. Your little one won't stay up til midnight in your arms because he needs to be rocked to fall asleep, and wake up two hours later needing the same exact thing. One day soon, both of your littles will be old enough to be in school all day long, which leaves room for more you time and creativity. And, one day you'll be able to work again. Because you haven't worked since your last pregnancy. Find comfort knowing that, although being a stay at home parent can be extremely challenging, it is also really rewarding too. You have the gift to watch your babies grow up. To spend quality, loving time with them. To be there for them anytime they need you. That right there is something they'll never forget, and remember forever. 

Take a breath. Enjoy this moment because one day, it's going to be gone. Just a memory, and you'll wish you had it back. 

Remember that you were made to do extraordinary, remarkable things. That includes being the best mom that you can be, no matter your title. 

Dear stay at home mom, you got this! 💞

Jess